Helpful Tips to Create a Positive Mindset
I consider myself a positive, "glass half-full" person. Though, I have my days when it isn't quite so easy. Days when things just are not going your way, there is entirely too much on your plate with not enough hours to complete it all and the stress feels a bit overwhelming. This time of year does not help. It's March and we are approaching the end of a long winter in New England, yet, it doesn't quite feel like Spring is coming. In fact, as I am writing this we are in the middle of the third nor'easter in two weeks. We are all sun-deprived and the sky is consistently a shade of grey. This is the time of year when I need a little extra boost to sustain a positive frame of mind. Here are a few tips and tricks that help me do just that.
This one seems like a no-brainer, right? For me... not so much! I'll be honest, most days I stay up way too late watching mindless television (aka reality tv) even though I've been up since 5am, am beyond exhausted and know that going to bed is the best decision. I don't know, maybe it's me but I find so much peace at the end of the night. The kids and hubby are in bed, it's quiet, and I find the only ounce of alone time in a 24 hour day so I try and take advantage. I've learned, however, up too late and up too early just don't mix. Waking up tired just sets a negative tone to the day and makes everything 100x times worse than they need to be . When I'm well rested, I notice a major shift in my mood which helps to suppress any negativity.
2. Shut Down Social
This sounds silly for someone who leverages social for their brand but it's true and I'm sure many others can relate. For me, social media tends to lead to comparing myself to others and in turn reflecting those comparisons negatively. This is not healthy for anyone even if they need social media to run their business or build their brand. I am making a conscious choice to limit my social scrolling to 30 minutes. 15 minutes in the morning and 15 minutes in the evening. Easier said than done but it is working for me.
3. THINK UP App
This app helps me a ton. The Think Up app records your voice while speaking daily affirmations and goals. I listen on the car ride to and from work. It's been a game changer for me. After getting over the awkwardness of listening to your voice recording (does anyone like the sound of there own voice?!), you focus on the positive things that surround us. This helps me settle my mind and puts me in a good place to tackle the day ahead.
4. End on a High
At the end of the day I like to sit down and reflect. Much of the reflecting is on the positive but I find that I often end up critiquing the things I did wrong or areas I need to improve upon. While the intention is good, to have self awareness and acknowledge areas where I can improve, it at times leads to me beating myself up and hyper focusing on all of that I did wrong: My parenting, my work productivity, whether I worked out or not, etc. It can be counter productive. Instead of working on improving as a parent, professionally and personally I end up feeling terrible about how I handled certain situations throughout the day.
My new approach is to focus more on the positive things I did, and how those can translate elsewhere. I think of what I was successful at during the day and reflect on how that made me and others feel. What a difference it's made. I still know what I need to improve on but instead of harping on the negative, I focus on the positive and build off of that.
I'd love to know, do you have any tips for staying positive? Comment below!