How the Power of Being Spontaneous Has Created the Most Memorable Moments.
Ugh, I used to cringe at the thought of being spontaneous. Me and spontaneity were not very good friends. When my children were a little younger (they’re now 6 and almost 4) routine was, and still is to some degree, everything. The day was planned from the moment we woke to the moment we were asleep. Even on the weekends we had to stick to the “plan”. We couldn’t disrupt our routine. My husband, Mark would suggest an impromptu dinner or random beach excursion when the kids were supposed to be napping and I would immediately shut it down. Nope. Packing them up was no short task (change of clothes, food, diapers, etc.) and what would happen after? They would be overtired from missing nap, their mealtime would be late and a meltdown on the horizon. It was easy for me to find any excuse. Being spontaneous was not an option.
Fast forward a couple of years and so much has changed. Now, when Mark suggests we make a quick change of plans I’m ready and willing. This past Sunday was such a great moment for our family. It was around 3pm on a less than ideal beach day and my son suggested we head to the beach. I’ll admit I was reluctant at first but decided to roll with it. I was going to be spontaneous. We packed up the car, didn’t have any dinner plans and just went. We. Had. The. Best. Time. The kids just enjoyed running around in the sand and Mark and I had some time to sit back, talk and just soak it all in. After a few hours, we were all hungry and ended up getting legendary Beach Pizza and ate it at The Wall. It was the perfect night. And it was spontaneous.
I think for me, it was almost as if I didn’t have any control of a spontaneous situation and that can be a struggle…no control. I found so much joy and so accomplished on the days when our “routine” went off without a hitch. No tantrums, great eating at meal time, lots of playing and learning. I felt very productive on those days. I didn’t want to do anything to ruin that. Now I try not to think so much and just do. I’m realizing that those spontaneous moments are some of the most memorable ones. When things are not planned and just happen. Spontaneity and I are now friends. Good friends.